Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Charity filter

  1. Do not attribute to malice, selfishness or incompetence what you can attribute to a reasonable but mistaken judgment.
  2. Do not attribute to malice or selfishness what you can attribute to incompetence.
  3. Do not attribute to malice what you can attribute to selfishness.


Dagmara Lizlovs said...


Many thanks for this post. I e-mailed the link to my friends today. Made sure I downloaded it, to put it in places I can see it when I really need to use this charity filter. There are some things we've got to constantly remind ourselves of, and this is one of them.

Dagmara Lizlovs said...

I would like to add this:

There was a time when I was terribly uncharitable to someone. The person was the first chair flautist in the Concert Band at the Midwestern Music and Art Camp at the University of Kansas which I attended when I was in High School. We were to perform at a Fourth of July Concert in the stadium at KU. A couple of hours before the concert I encountered a couple of girls carrying the first chair flautist asking for help. I told them off not because I wanted to be mean towards anyone in trouble, but because I had been pranked several times by other campers. I honestly believed that this was another prank and this time I wasn't going to fall for it. A short time later, members in our flute section were told to practice the solo portion of this piece we were to play, because the first chair flautist had badly cut herself on some glass and was in the clinic and was not expected to make the concert and a substitute would be needed. To our astonishment, she did make the concert, knee all stitched and bandaged. If she happens to be reading this post, all I can say is this, back then it wasn't any intended hurtfulness or incompetence on my part, it was mistaken judgment.

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Christian Simple said...

Yeah I agree with it, we should ignore them for good.The family international is proud of you.

God Bless!