Sometimes I have some onerous task that we seem to have a duty to
perform. And then something happens—perhaps we learn something or
perhaps the situation changes—and it becomes clear that I have no duty
to perform the task. In this post, I am interested in morally evaluating
the feeling of relief I then often have.
But start with an opposite thought that could occur to one
in place of relief: “Oh, no! I had hoped to gain the merit of performing
the task, to gain the intrinsic good of acting virtuously in a
particularly onerous way, but now circumstances have robbed me of this.”
This thought could occur to me, but in fact pretty much never
does, because I am too lazy a person to look forward to doing an onerous
thing. But apart from my non-virtuous reason for not having the thought,
I don’t think it’s a great thought to have. I think such a thought is
like treating morality like a game—“Oh, no! I was going to have this
boss fight, and I accidentally found a way around it, and now I won’t
get the achievement!” While it is intrinsically good to act
well, I don’t think we should treat acting well as something like a win
in a game. Plus, it sounds Pelagian.
Now, it can make sense to have a regret that someone else performed
the task when there was a special personal reason to do the task
oneself. If one’s child wants someone to explain something complex and
difficult to them, and a school teacher gets to it first, one might feel
a regret that one didn’t get to do it oneself.
But let’s go back to cases where one feels relief. There are
different kinds of situations like this. One kind is where the goods the
task was to accomplish happen without the onerous input from me. Perhaps
someone else does the onerous task. In that case, it makes sense to feel
gratitude to them, and this gratitude makes no sense if one isn’t on
some level glad that they took the burden on themselves. So in that
case, some kind of a relief is a part of the feelings of a virtuous
person. Or perhaps the thing I was trying to ensure happens “on its
own”. Then perhaps one doesn’t feel gratitude to any person (unless
maybe one is a theist), but a gladness and relief seems as appropriate
as in the case where someone else produced the goods.
A somewhat different case is where the task become moot. You promised
to go with a friend to see a movie which you really didn’t want to have
to sit through, and which you think your friend won’t enjoy either, but
you promised and you thought that was that. But now your friend read
some reviews and decided they don’t want to see it either. Again, relief
is appropriate.
Of course, there are times when the reason the task became moot is
itself a reason for regret. If the friend you promised to go to the
boring movie with had their mother die and so is no mood for movies, any
relief should be silenced or drowned out by sadness for your friend.
A third kind of case is where the goods of the task become or turn
out to be unattainable. You are a surgeon and you were going to be
staying up performing a life-saving operation when all your body is
crying out for sleep. And then the patient dies, and it’s not your job
to save their life, because it’s too late. It’s a bit like the friend’s
mother’s death case. But it’s not quite the same. The virtuous person
should, I think, primarily feel a regret for the loss of the goods.
There is a kind of vice—a vice to which I am particularly prone—of
pursuing duties because they are duties rather than for the sake of the
goods achieved by the task. If one primarily feels relief because the
goods turn out to be unattainable, this is a sign that one’s
appreciation of these goods was insufficient, an unfortunate thing.
A fourth kind of case is where the goods of the task can still be
achieved by the task, but it turns out that the task is no longer one’s
duty. Perhaps after reflection I realized that the task is
supererogatory. Or perhaps an authority who had required the task of me
just made the task optional. A kind of “The pressure is off” relief is
fitting—one is no longer obligated, and so one is in a less
risky situation. One still risks losing the goods of the task, but one
no longer risks wrongdoing. And that’s good. But if one instantly drops
all plans for the task, and feels unalloyed gladness that one no longer
has the duty, and does not care about the loss of the goods that the
task would have accomplished, again it’s a sign that one’s appreciation
of the goods was insufficient.
Here’s an interesting thing. A similar thing goes wrong in the case
of the inappropriate “I’ve been robbed of the merit” regret and in the
cases of the inappropriate relief: a self-centered failure to be
sufficiently focused on and appreciative of the goods of the onerous
task. This is a vice that is very common in me. I am often much more focused
on "my duty" than on the first order goods to be achieved.